The Method is a technique that helps you let go of what’s bothering you
The sort of things that come up in the day-to-day that we stress about. Situations that happen at work, in your relationships, with your finances. It can be anything. Nothing is too big or little.
“The Method is a priceless tool for anyone either working with a professional or on their own, when exploring their emotions and reactions to the world around them.”
— Sylvia Montesinos, psychiatrist/MD
It begins with this… something happened, it’s bothering you, and you can’t let it go
Your boss came down on you in the department meeting.
You got into a fight with your lover over what to have for dinner.
A cashier was rude to you in the checkout line.
It’s affecting your emotional well-being
Ever since your boss came down on you, you’ve been feeling down. You’ve worked so hard on your project, and your boss doesn’t seem to care.
You’re really angry with your lover. You wanted to eat fish for dinner, not pasta. It seems like it’s always what your lover wants.
That cashier really rubbed you the wrong way. What was the problem?
You can’t let it go
Maybe what happened, happened just now or yesterday. It could’ve happened last week or last month. Even last year.
You keep thinking about it. It could be a little, just enough to make you feel uneasy or agitated. Or a lot. You’re obsessing and ruminating, analyzing what happened. In your quiet moments, it creeps back into your thoughts. No matter how hard you try, you can’t escape thinking about it.
Whatever’s bothering you, you try to brush it off as nothing. You try to convince yourself that it shouldn’t bother you. You should be able to just forget about it. You’re making a big deal out of nothing.
But whatever is bothering you, whether it happened today or last month, whether you’re upset a lot or a little, whether you think it shouldn’t bother you or not — no matter how hard you try — you can’t let it go.
But you need to let it go
○ For your peace of mind.
○ For your health: Stress is a factor in at least 75% of illness and disease. Chronic stressing circulates damaging stress chemicals in your body that compromise your health over time.
○ For your life, so you get back to having a meaningful and joyful one.
The Method is a technique that helps you let go of what’s bothering you.
The Method is an effective tool for stress management, emotional healing, personal growth, and spiritual development
Because The Method helps with day-to-day stressing, it can be thought of as a stress management tool. But it’s more than that.
The Method is also a tool for emotional healing. For example, it can help you to move on when you’re going through a breakup. Letting go of what’s bothering you can help build your self-confidence and self-esteem, advancing your personal growth. Letting go can even enhance your spiritual journey, if you would like to open your heart to more peace, joy, and higher love.
How does it work?
Feel
It has to do with “letting go”. What we’re holding onto is emotional pain — buried pain, from the past. When an experience is too painful to bear, it’s common to bury our feelings to protect ourselves. Most of the time, we’re not aware that we’re doing it.
It turns out that buried pain from the past is the source of what’s bothering us now. The Method uncovers buried emotional pain. The good news is, once the buried pain is uncovered — and felt —it’s gone for good.
The Method is available in three ways
Private sessions
I have been facilitating The Method since 2013 when I developed it. Private sessions are 75 minutes and are conducted over the phone. (Clients pay online from their own secure computer or smartphone prior to the start of a session.)
Books
I developed The Method in 2013 when I was writing The Simple Seven. I wanted to provide readers with a stress management tool that they could use on their own. The Method is also presented on its own in the book, Feel Good, Do The Method.
Workshops
Workshops are available if you would like to learn how to master using The Method on your own.
The best thing that clients say about The Method is that it’s freeing and changes are immediate.
Testimonials
“I initially began using The Method to try and understand the deep discomfort I felt during a period of unemployment and the general confusion I had about my career path. Though I had struggled to find work before, this time I found the anxiety and profound negativity was paralyzing and I was unable to move forward despite being familiar with the job search process.
By the end of the first session, I had discovered that growing up during the AIDS epidemic in New York City in the 1980’s had a profound impact on the way I viewed the world and my ability to trust not only those around me, but also trust in logic and justice. The trauma caused by witnessing so much pain and suffering while being far too young to comprehend the situation led me to create cognitive and emotional barricades that, though they kept me from fully experiencing the pain at that time, were now so deeply embedded that they were causing me to live my adult life in fear.
The outpouring of emotions after my first session practicing The Method surprised me. I had vivid dreams and found that the more I thought about my uncovered trauma, the more I was able to dig deeper into other emotional issues that were causing me distress. I also felt more compassion towards myself and for the people and situations that had shaped me.
I highly encourage any individuals experiencing personal or emotional stagnation to seek out The Method. By exposing our deep trauma, we can experience catharsis and move on from pain. When we have released our hold on embedded coping mechanisms, we can begin to rebuild our core self and embrace new potentials and possibilities.”
— C.G., 32, Albuquerque, New Mexico
“In one session, I figured out that my fear of parking in crowded parking lots (which would make me leave) was tied to a fear of financial insecurity, not of crowded spaces.”
— M.M., 58 , Poland, Ohio
I decided to try The Method in the middle of a very difficult year. Personally, my life felt emotionally exhausting and unsafe. Professionally, my life felt unfulfilled and I was unhappy in my job because of a particularly abusive colleague. Globally, I was overwhelmed by the turns of politics and events. Overall, I’d fallen into the deepest depression I’d experienced in my life, and I felt hollow and unable to tap into my emotions or find a way toward healing. I’d made a few attempts to find a therapist, but each time I did, recommended therapists were not taking clients and I felt more alone and frustrated. I’m a long-time proponent of personal wellness and keeping tabs on my mental health to make sure I was doing regular maintenance, but I felt like I’d let things get out of control.
Then I found The Method, and Marlene. Marlene created a safe space to try The Method. Her demeanor is welcoming, calming, and full of love. She made me feel safe and encouraged to make my way through The Method and she helped me feel with full confidence I would come through the process in a better place. I did.
As we made our way through each step of The Method, she asked perfectly timed and phrased questions to help me dig deeper. She gently guided me through choosing and using specific words to describe situations and the way I felt to get at the root cause. The more specific she encouraged me to be, the more clarity I felt with each step of the exercise.
At the end, I felt free of the incident that kept creeping into my thoughts and interrupting my sleep. I felt clear, and for the first time in many months, I felt hope. I know that one step at a time, with Marlene’s support, I can use The Method to cleanse my spirit of the traumas and toxicity that weigh me down, and make my way into my light. The Method is a gift, and Marlene is a safe, kind, gentle, capable, person who creates a space of safety and comfort while facilitating The Method. For anyone who feels sadness, anger, nagging, frustration, or any negativity about any experience, I highly recommend using The Method. It restores hope.
— A. C. B., 28, Los Angeles, California
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